Monthly Archives: August 2016
Monthly Archives: August 2016
Katie Hopkins continues to provoke reactions with her controversial views, but in the final analysis the reactions she generates can teach us about how we respond to the world. When you read a list of Katie Hopkins quotes focus on your reaction, not on the woman delivering the messages. If you can contain your outrage for a few minutes I’ll explain why I think she has a instructive role to play on the world’s stage.
First, a short story:
Two monks, a young acolyte and his older mentor, are walking to a monastery. After a while, they approach a ford at a river. The river is swollen and fuller than usual and they notice a pretty young woman waiting nervously on the bank, trying to summon the courage to wade across.
On approaching the woman the older monk offers to carry her across the river on his back. The woman accepts this act of kindness and clambers onto the monk’s back.
The younger monk is aghast! This is outrageous! How could his mentor disobey one of their stricters rules! But he says nothing.
On reaching the other side of the river the woman thanks the monk with a salutation and a smile and goes on her way. Two monks continue on their journey in another direction.
After a few miles the younger monk can contain his rage no longer and in an outburst of anger he says to the older monk, “How could you do that?! After all we’ve been taught and the vows we have taken?!”
The older monk replies calmly, “I left the woman at the side of the river. Are you still carrying her?”
Consider everyday intrusions on our minds, emotions, and general sense of well-being. How we react to any of these situations is our choice. No one makes us feel negative emotions, we just allow ourselves to feel them out of habit and lack of self discipline.
For example, someone cuts in front of you as you exit a roundabout, forcing you to break sharply with all the usual effects in your car. As this idiot driver accelerates away you are left with a choice:
You can call the driver an appropriate expletive, then take several deep breaths and continue with your day. You could think about one thousand and one things that are interesting or fun. It’s up to you.
Alternatively you could replay the scene in your mind and relive the anger. Take it with you as you continue with your day and tell everyone at work/home about it. Imagine other outcomes where, for example, you stop the driver and enter into a confrontation that escalates into violence.
To use another example; you’re watching Newsnight, Question Time, or listening to the Jeremy Vyne Show on Radio 2. Someone says something you passionately disagree with so you start shouting at the radio or the TV and countering the point. You start and internal dialogue in your head in which you make your point forcibly. You realise that it’s now 11.45pm and you can’t get to sleep. Who is doing this to you? The person on the TV/radio? Really?
If the world is controlling your emotions then perhaps it’s time you started working on those unused and flabby muscles called self-discipline and emotional intelligence.
Katie Hopkins says something about your lifestyle that you find offensive because it feels like a personal attack due to some choices you have made. That emotional response you feel is your responsibility, not hers.
If you’re offended, ask yourself why you feel this way? Why aren’t you comfortable in your own skin? Why do her comments rile you if you’re the self-assured and self-confident person you thought you were up to that point? Her comments and your reactions to them are the mirror that the world is holding up to you.
Katie Hopkins says something about others that you find offensive because you think it’s unjust and hateful for someone in the media to express opinions about other people’s lifestyles, religions etc. Again, that emotional response you feel is your responsibility, not hers.
Why are you getting offended on other people’s behalf? Does it make you feel like you’re a better person by doing so? How noble of you. See virtue signalling.
Do you check her Twitter feed each morning to see if there’s something new to be outraged about? Do you feel an urge to spend time and effort attacking her online and complaining on social media about what she has said? See SJW (Social Justice Warrior).
Do you think that, by expressing certain opinions, she is committing a hate crime and a Police investigation is warranted?
Do you think perhaps that our over stretched and under funded Police Forces tackling an ever increasing crime rate due to an expanding population have more important things to do?
As we mature from childhood into adulthood we’re supposed to stop stamping our feet and bursting into tears when we don’t get our own way. We’re also supposed to learn that we are in control of our lives and our emotions.
Unfortunately, not everyone manages to complete this important stage of maturity and they continue to blame their parents, their teachers, their upbringing, the government, and everyone else for all their problems. When Katie Hopkins points out that they have a choice, they blame her too.
If you feel offended, personally or on behalf of others, then ask yourself why that happens. Contemplate the reasons and learn how to deal with it, drop it, and move on. Otherwise you will spend your life in a near permanent state of anger and rage, with all the associated detrimental effects on your health and well-being.
Watch how Katie Hopkins expresses an opinion, defends it, and explains it again. If you have strongly held convictions you should be able to articulate them as well as she does in any debate, and you should be able to defend your beliefs without getting angry and upset because someone doesn’t agree with you. If you don’t know how to do that then perhaps it’s time you learned.
With all the above in mind, watch this collection of Katie Hopkins quotes and then see if you still feel offended or outraged. Could you perhaps just shrug it off and go and do some gardening, writing, or yoga? Maybe you could get on with some work?
Or perhaps you could listen the point being made and imagine how you would counter it with a well articulated point of your own.
You see, she’s really quite harmless. Your constant state of rage on the other hand, well, that’s a slow poison.
LinkedIn is a thousand things to a thousand different people. Perhaps you’ve completed your profile and use it for brief and infrequent messages to former colleagues, or maybe you’re a heavy user preferring it to all the alternatives. Whatever it does for you there’s no denying that first impressions count, so here’s a few tongue in cheek suggestions of what your Linkedin profile picture says about you.
You’re not really serious about this are you? Failed at the first hurdle. Sort yourself out and upload a head and shoulders shot.
Are you a logo? A building? Do you have four legs? The profile is meant to be about you.
The Face in Shade
I can see that you’re a human, aged 20-60, possibly male, but that’s about it.
The Over The Shoulder
Are you David Brent? This is a business website not recruitment page for TV extras.
The Party Dress
The shot taken of you in that bar in Ibiza holding a half empty Pink Mojito at 2am. You’re clearly someone who enjoys a night out, but what are you like in the office?
The Other Half
So you cut a picture of the two of you in half and uploaded the bit with you in it. You now appear to be leaning to one side with a stray hand on your shoulder.
The Webcam DIY
The view of your nostrils with a slight fisheye effect while you frown trying to get the angle right is not a good look.
To save time you uploaded the same picture that’s on your name badge. You know, the one taken when you were 123rd to be photographed on a hot day in 2010.
You’ve got one decent picture of yourself but it’s from 2003. Scrub up and upload something more recent.
“Hello, my name is Larry. Larry Lovemyself.”
Q: “If you’re in a crowded room, how do you tell which one is the pilot?”
A: “Just wait. He’ll let you know soon enough.”
Yes, your cleavage can attract attention, but probably not the sort you might want on LinkedIn. Try Tinder.
Have you seen other examples that made you wonder? Let me know in the comments below.